You are taught by school and your parents to connect by finding your part to play in this world. When you connect by playing a fixed part, in a fixed sum of the parts, you will expect everyone to fulfill their parts so that everyone can benefit from the overall outcome. While this may seem like a connection, it is the bare minimum of what is possible. It is a comfort zone. Although having something to aim for makes this arrangement more bearable, it does not eliminate the feeling of...

I have long sought a term that captures what I do, one that distinguishes my work from that of teachers, sports coaches, and seasoned players who mistakenly believe they do what I do. While I initially thought "flow state" was the answer, I’ve come to realize that it isn’t. When we engage in a Gestalt , the connections between the parts allow us to create something that is more than the sum of the parts, and it may feel like flow, but it is not a mindset we enter; it’s emersive connection. We...

When I resist, they feel controlled or disrespected. I then tend to withdraw, because I don't want them to feel this way. But we both lose out from this. I have finally come up with a set of words that explain why I don't want to be part of something that is aligned to work seamlessly. _______________________________________________ As illustrated by the Scottish Men's Six Nations team at the weekend. And how I offer something more than my individual contribution