I have long sought a term that captures what I do, one that distinguishes my work from that of teachers, sports coaches, and seasoned players who mistakenly believe they do what I do. While I initially thought "flow state" was the answer, I’ve come to realize that it isn’t. When we engage in a Gestalt , the connections between the parts allow us to create something that is more than the sum of the parts, and it may feel like flow, but it is not a mindset we enter; it’s emersive connection. We...

When I resist, they feel controlled or disrespected. I then tend to withdraw, because I don't want them to feel this way. But we both lose out from this. I have finally come up with a set of words that explain why I don't want to be part of something that is aligned to work seamlessly. _______________________________________________ As illustrated by the Scottish Men's Six Nations team at the weekend. And how I offer something more than my individual contribution

Some players enjoy playing basketball to prove who the best player is, and like arguing over fouls. This has never been my motivation for playing. My aim has always been to connect. This is why I ran my own sessions, but all it takes is one or two players to turn up determined to play ego basketball, and I would lose the focus on connection, until I proved we are the better players. But I can't be bothered with this anymore. Life is too short. For my sessions with young people, I would also...