Most of us know, CONNECTION is as important as everything else put together.
If we are stagnating, it will most likely be down to how we are connecting.
When you connect by playing a fixed part, in a fixed sum of the parts, you will expect everyone to fulfill their parts so that everyone can benefit from the overall outcome. While this may seem like a connection, it is the bare minimum of what is possible. It is a comfort zone. Although having something to aim for makes this arrangement more bearable, it does not eliminate the feeling of stagnation.
It can be painful to be excluded from playing a specific role in someone else's predetermined scenario. You have the option to risk rejection and seek another fixed part to play. Or, you can carve out your own understanding of the world and connect with those whose thoughts align with yours. You create a new comfort zone. Although having something to aim for makes this arrangement more bearable, it does not eliminate the feeling of stagnation.
To escape this stagnation, consider embracing the concept of Gestalt. By loosening the ties between interconnected parts, you allow connections that create something greater than the sum of the less fixed parts. When the constraints of perfection are lifted, a never-ending pathway of continuous improvement opens.
Experiencing a Gestalt requires you to read how all parts are separate, different, and interconnected. This allows you to recognize when someone is nearing the end of their options, and at that pivotal moment, you present an alternative they were unaware of. It creates a deep sense of connection.
Participating in a Gestalt involves effectively communicating to everyone involved what you are about to try to do. Then wait to see how everyone reacts. Once you've observed the effects, you do what were about to do, or communicate that you are going to do something else, and keep this process going. Through these evolving connections, actions that we didn't know were available appear. Imagine running into the unknown, connected to people who you know will appear in the moment they are needed.
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St Albans and surrounding areas - not for profit - community events

Older adults and adult beginners play BasketballWed 25 FebLoreto College, St Albans
All-ability adults play Basketball (1)Sun 01 MarWatford
Conversation to remove the feeling of stagnation with being a manTue 17 MarLocation is TBD
Late paymentThu 31 DecAL3 5LH
League-level BasketballDate and time is TBDLocation is TBD
All-ability adults swimDate and time is TBDLocation is TBD
Our
Story
A Journey Through Connection and technology
In the early 1990s, I served as a business analyst for a company that employed the revolutionary online collaboration tool, Lotus Notes.
My role involved identifying the various ways in which individuals connect and assessing which of these connections could be facilitated online.
I classified the forms of connection into two categories: measurable and immeasurable. The measurable connections were moved online, with the intention of freeing up more face-to-face time for those connections that could not be quantified.
I have recently learned that the measurable connections are for fixing parts into a fixed sum of the parts and for aligning thinking. The immeasurable connections are for creating something greater than the sum of the parts, described as Gestalt.
As the Internet and Google began to rise, I shifted my focus to assisting struggling technology projects on the verge of failure. By replacing the measurable connection with Gestalt connection, I was able to ensure that these projects were completed on time and within budget.
After that, I dedicated my efforts to helping young people with autism experience a Gestalt of connection.
Because it has become too easy to rely on measurable connections, I want to do something that makes it easier for people experience Gestalt connections.
The ability to connect to create something bigger than the sum of the parts is a crucial life skill of the 21st century
St Albans, UK

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