I hope you are well.

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The simplest description of autism I have found is social-communication deficits and restricted, repetitive behaviours. At a practical level, that often means over-controlling and over-perfecting the parts. Giving someone with autism parts to perfect and control does not help them; I would say it can harm them.

Nobody can control the perfected parts so tightly that the relational connections between them disappear. When any of us try, we burn out, fragment, and anxiety follows. The cost of brief moments of perfect assembly is high.

But in a world determined to judge by how well anyone controls perfected parts, most of us over-control and over-perfect. It is a world that makes the autistic more autistic.

So I learned to use the containers provided by the rules of a sport to create opportunities to improve by letting go of over-control and over-perfection. That creates opportunities for those with autism to experience progress through the relational connections between the parts, allowing a whole to emerge that is greater than the perfect assembly of the perfected parts.

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Always happy to chat